Text Your Ex Guide
Don't go in without a plan.
The exact texts to send when your ex reaches out — or when you reach out to them — so you stop replying out of panic and start replying with a plan that's been tested across hundreds of relationships.
9 videos · the cheat-sheet PDF · the last-chance plan
If this is you
Are you stuck on any of these?
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Not knowing why your ex has gone silent.
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Getting stuck in “check-in” text limbo that never goes anywhere.
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Not knowing whether to text them on their birthday or other big days.
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Quietly fearing you'll never hear from them again.
Make each text count
Imagine knowing exactly what to say.
Picture the moment your ex texts you — or the moment you decide to text them. Instead of firing back something anxious you'll re-read forty times, you respond in a way that's been tested across hundreds of real relationships to give you the best possible shot.
Want to know how?
What others say
From people who were right where you are.
"I found Cole's course about 10 weeks after my boyfriend of 13 years broke up with me. His advice on how I was feeling — and how my ex may be feeling — helped so much. It helped me see this was not about me being “less than.” You ARE enough. In time, you will be able to love and be loved again."
"My relationship ended about a month ago and I had a lot of insecurity about how to respond if my ex wrote to me — like on my birthday. When my birthday came, I felt secure about how to respond. Thank you very much!"
"Thoughtful and useful. He makes you aware of things like breadcrumbing — which was my case specifically — and guides you on what to say when that moment happens. He even provides a script you can make your own. I'd definitely recommend this to anyone looking for guidance when communicating with their ex again."
Why I care
I've been on the other side of the phone.
I got married young and thought I knew everything about relationships. I made a lot of mistakes, and after two years I found myself in a sudden divorce. I tried to numb the pain with another relationship — and about a year later, she left too.
I knew I had to change. I read every book I could find on secure relationships, started sharing what I learned, and since then I've done 2,000+ coaching calls. Most importantly, I used these skills to find and marry the love of my life, Jocelyn.
My goal is simple: help as many people as I can avoid the pain I went through — and handle the texting phase without losing themselves in it.
Inside the guide
What you'll learn.
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What actually counts as a reach-out?
A text is obvious. But what about a like on your post, a watched story, or asking your friends about you? You'll learn what each one really means.
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Breadcrumbing
When an ex checks in but pulls away the second the relationship comes up. Why they do it, and exactly how to get out of the limbo — instead of waiting years.
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When they text you
You're in no contact (and if you're not yet, you should be). So what do you do the moment they actually reach out? Wait? Suggest meeting? You may only get one shot — make it count.
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The most common texts
How exes tend to text when they miss you. Includes a PDF of copy-and-paste responses for the most common scenarios, so you never freeze again.
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Getting the meet-up
This is the goal — everything changes in person. How to turn a text into a date, how long to talk first, and whether to ask or let them make the first move.
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The Hail Mary text
After analyzing hundreds of coaching calls, I found the single best way to reach out if they go quiet after no contact — built to lower the stress and maximize your shot at the meet-up.
Everything you get
The Text Your Ex Guide includes:
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9 self-paced videos
Real examples, not theory. We go deep on the psychology of why an ex reaches out — and what keeps them silent — so you can handle whatever comes.
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PDF texting cheat-sheet
20 copy-and-paste texts from real scenarios I've seen on coaching calls — direct, indirect, breadcrumbing, simple, reminder, and last-chance. A pattern for almost any text they could send.
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The Last Chance Plan
If they don't text after a certain window (the course helps you calculate it), this is your move. Sometimes an ex wants to reach out but fears rejection — this protects you while giving them the door.
Don't risk the opportunity
Some people only get
one reach-out.
Be ready for it. One-time payment, lifetime access, and the cheat sheet is yours to keep on your phone for the exact moment you need it.
$27
One-time payment · lifetime access